Sometimes, Everything is Not Coming Up Roses
I know, I know – personal development coaches are supposed to be upbeat and write motivational posts, right? But we’re ordinary people, and sometimes our lives aren’t going all that well either. The past couple of months have been a roller coaster. Just as my biggest client disappeared into the sunset, I was offered my absolute dream opportunity. I love the project, the students and my colleagues. Of course, there’s a little glitch in the payment process, but, oh well.
I found the perfect jacket last week. The zipper broke immediately.
The four and a half trip home from a wonderful Thanksgiving weekend turned into seven hours of bad traffic. I slept through the dinner ordering part of the trip. I had the perfect turkey sandwich in my bag.
Everything seems to have slowed down or gotten stalled of late. After three attempts, I’ve still not been able to finalize two meetings. Even my cat litter delivery is mysteriously delayed.
What’s going on here? I’m torn between feeling like I’m trapped on a roller coaster and feeling like I’m slogging in the mud. And slogging. And slogging.
Well, as the old saying goes, there’s got to be a pony in here someplace.
I’m feeling less than cheery now, but I remain optimistic. I know that, with a little patience, a lot of hard work, and a lot of faith, everything will turn around. I have the resources to hold on. I have friends to listen to my weep and gnash my teeth and kick and scream. Each morning, I set an agenda and do at least a little bit to reach my goals. No, life is not always wonderful – I don’t care what anyone says. Sometimes life just isn’t much fun. But there’s always room to change or create something new or wait something out. Persistence. Perseverance. Grit. I have friends who have gone through multiple rounds of cancer and still have wonderful lives. Some have lost loved ones. Some have gone bankrupt. It seems to me that, deep inside, they knew that somewhere in that pile of manure there really was a pony. And they were right. And so am I.
And What Does This Have To Do With You and With Coaching?
Everything. When I look for a coach, I want someone who doesn’t think everything is wonderful all the time. I like working with a coach who has had some hard times. Why? Because they’ve survived. Because they know how I’m feeling when things aren’t going well. Because they know how to help me turn things around. That’s what makes them good. That’s what makes me good.
I know as sure as I’m writing these words that when I feel like one foot is over the cliff and the other is on a banana peel, something magical is about to happen. I know how to wait out any sense of impending doom – and I help my clients do the same.
So, yes – I believe in positive thinking and intentions and affirmations. And I also believe that sometimes compassion, common sense, support, and a good plan are better. So, if you’re feeling down, find a good partner and a couple of shovels. I promise – there’s a pony in your future.